Been thinking. (uh-oh!)
Decided to make a list of the negative and positive aspects of my personality. For every negative point I list, I’ll list a positive point in contrast.
I think this is healthy. I can see if I need to make some changes to better myself.
This is mainly a contemplative blog for my own reflective purposes but feel free to comment on anything, and even add things you think I might have missed (in the same negative-positive point form to keep the ol’ self-esteem at a healthy level please).
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1. I can be aggressive. / I like to confront people and have them confront me and be upfront with issues and try to resolve them openly instead of closing myself off. I try not to be passive and let people walk over me.
2. I seem to argue with people a lot. / I think civilised debate is healthy and often fun. Hearing other people’s views which differ to mine often strengthen my own views, and occasionally someone says something I didn’t think of before, or makes a valid point about something I initially disagreed with, which broadens my perceptions of things.
3. Sometimes I feel over-opinionated. / I am passionate about things.
4. I am self-righteous. / I have strong beliefs and principles and defend them with conviction.
5. Sometimes the things I say come out badly because I don’t think before I speak. / I am honest, don’t sugar-coat things, and am not afraid to say things to people’s faces instead of behind their backs.
6. I ruminate, dwell on things, replay events in my head. This often leads to doubt in myself; doubting the things I did or said. Thoughts often become emotional and negative. I ponder ways to resolve the issue, playing out different scenarios and wording and rewording speeches. / This also leads to a more objective analysis of things I said or did, resulting in organisation of thought and a thorough assessment of situations. Thinking about what to say before I say it is never a bad thing either. This all may actually lead to the resolution of an issue. Sometimes I realise I need to adjust something about myself.
7. I am sometimes more close-minded (or is it closed-minded? Someone please let me know) than I’d like to be. / I am glad that I have strong views about things and that I care and actually give a damn and have chosen particular stances about things, even if people might look down on me for having those views etc.
8. I am critical of things. Perhaps too critical. Maybe I’m too serious. Sometimes I think I need to lighten up and just not care about things as much. / I can be social without having to be intoxicated etc; I am cautious and a believer in ‘better safe than sorry’; I am good at risk-assessment; I rarely give in to peer pressure, if at all; I don’t mind that my idea of fun is more ‘boring’ and homely than some other people’s; I don’t feel the need to always conform; I feel mature, aware, responsible and sensible (which is comforting).
9. I am more pessimistic than optimistic. I am cynical about things. / I try to be a realist and weigh up the pros and cons. I try to see the good in things, including what good aspects could come out of a bad situation.
10. I seem to always have to be right. / I am determined to prove my points. But I have no problem admitting I am wrong when I am wrong.
11. I doubt myself a lot. I am insecure. I wonder if I am nice enough, too bitchy, how I come across to strangers, too sensitive and emotional, too pushy and naggy (or whatever the adjective form of ‘nag’ is), too [see 10 above points] etc. / I believe that ultimately I’m a good person and that I have purpose and value. I know that I mean something to my friends and family. At least that’s what I tell myself.
Things which are both pros and cons:
- I set high standards for myself
- I am competitive
- I am emotional
Okay, can’t think of that much more without repeating things. What a nice long list…
Gives me an idea for my next blog topic… Light VS Dark: the Indivual’s Inner Battle.
I like it. Stay tuned.
I’m glad we had this talk, me.
: )